One of the greatest testimonies of my life is how the Lord has brought healing to my heart and mind. He didn’t just settle my circumstances; He restored my peace. In the middle of the process, He kept whispering that He would never leave me, and that truth carried me through every step. The Lord has been the restorer of my soul, and He is still doing that beautiful work in me today.
If you are weary, come and sit with us. We pray this conversation serves as a catalyst for healing and perspective in your life today.
I had the privilege of sitting down with a dear sister of mine to discuss the journey of healing. Her insight on God’s restoration were so powerful that I knew I had to share them with you in this blog. If you’ve been with us for a while, her face and her words will be familiar to you. She recently wrote an article on our newsletter about going back to the first wound— not to dwell on the past, but to see how God has been pursuing us from the very beginning. Even in our deepest brokenness, she beautifully illustrated how we can walk victoriously, knowing that God is constantly calling us toward restoration and wholeness in Him. Think of this as a friendly chat at a café—settle in and let this conversation speak to you.
Q: Thabiso, I’d love for you to share what the journey of healing has looked like for you personally.
A: the journey of healing for me has felt like a rollercoaster—or the rhythmic movement of waves. There were days when the pain felt loud and unbearable, but then there were mornings when I woke up and said, “Okay… the Lord is the lifter of my head. Today, we try again.”
It hasn’t been linear, and it certainly hasn’t been neat. Some days I felt like I was making massive progress, while on others, it felt like I was right back where I started. Yet, the one constant through it all has been the presence of God.
Even on my worst days—the days I cried, the days I questioned, and the days I felt lost in the deep valley—I knew He was with me. I didn’t always have the strength or the answers, but I had His presence. Healing hasn’t been about pretending the pain isn’t there; it’s been about allowing myself to feel it while knowing I am never alone in it. Even in the valley, He was there, and sometimes that was the only thing that carried me through.
Q: you wrote about returning to the first wound. For a soul currently seeking restoration, what does this path require of them, and how does it lead to the lasting healing they are looking for today?
A: I truly believe there is no safer starting point for anyone than salvation. Healing doesn’t begin with strategies; it begins with surrender. To the one who is already a born-again child of God, I would say this: run to Him again. The Bible says; “the name of the Lord is a strong tower; the righteous run to it and are safe. That running is intentional; it is a conscious choice.” Proverbs 18:10.
When I wrote about returning to the ‘first wound, I reflected on how God pursued Adam and Eve even after they had fallen. His posture was not one of rejection, but of pursuit. In that moment, His arms were wide open—and they still are today. This path requires radical honesty. It requires laying down our pride, our shame, and our self-reliance to say, “Lord, here I am. Take total control.”
I believe true healing begins in that place of total surrender. When we cast our burdens, our pain, and our confusion onto Him, we finally make room to receive what only He can give: restoration for our souls. Ultimately, healing is found in the act of running toward our Father.
Q: How has that served as a catalyst for your own healing, and how does it continue to shape your journey today?
A: Every time I run to the Father, I’m reminded that I don’t need perfect words to express how I feel. So often, I don’t even have the language for what is happening inside me, but in the stillness of His presence and in prayer, I know that He hears my heart.
That knowledge has been deeply healing for me. There are moments when I rise from prayer or meditation on God’s Word with an overwhelming assurance of His presence. Sometimes He reminds me of His unfailing, unconditional love; other times, it is a quiet reassurance: “I am right here with you.” It’s in those moments that the Word stops being something I merely read and starts becoming something that dwells in me.
As it takes root, it begins to shape my life, my responses, my decisions, and my posture. Running toward the Father has taught me what it means to become one with Him. In that oneness, I’ve learned to surrender at a deeper level—letting Him take the lead and allowing Him to do as He pleases with me. That continual return to His presence is the catalyst that keeps shaping my healing even today.
Q: In our walk as children of God, why is the journey of healing such a vital part of our growth and relationship with the Father?
A: Healing is essential because of the work of the cross. When the Bible says, “By His stripes we are healed,” it shows us that healing was never an afterthought to God; it was always part of His redemptive plan. God did not intend for His children to live trapped in pain, trauma, or bitterness. He desires that we walk in wholeness.
When we don’t heal, we tend to respond from wounded places. We react out of pain and make decisions out of trauma. Sometimes we even hold on to unforgiveness because the wound is still fresh. Without realizing it, our hurt begins to shape how we see others, how we see ourselves, and even how we relate to God.
Healing transforms us because it also teaches us forgiveness—especially when the pain was caused by someone else or by situations beyond our control. That process, though difficult, sets us free. I believe God wants us walking in the ‘healed version’ of ourselves, not just for our own peace, but so we can reflect His love more fully as we grow in Him.
Q: Healing looks different for everyone. Could you share some of the diverse ways you’ve seen God bring restoration—whether in your own life or in the lives of those around you?
A: Oh sis, indeed—God’s healing and restoration don’t always look the same for everyone. For some, it comes through worship and praise. For others, it comes through fellowship and being surrounded by other children of God. Sometimes, God even calls a specific person to walk closely with you during your journey to restoration.
In my own life, healing has often come through people. Especially in the space where I am currently fellowshipping, I have experienced a love that carried me through moments when I felt unworthy—even moments when I was upset with God because of what I had been through. There were times I would think, “God, I don’t even deserve this.”or “God, I’m so angry.” And yet, through the consistent love of those around me, He gently restored my heart.That love brought me back to Him.
I truly believe restoration happens in different ways for different people. Every sincere act of worship, every gathering in His name, and every moment spent lifting Him up creates space for Him to move. When we lift our praise to Him, something shifts within us. His presence meets us there, and that encounter becomes a vital part of our healing.
Q: How has God used the people around you as instruments of His restoration? In what ways did their presence or counsel make a difference when you were at your lowest?
A: There is nothing as beautiful—and I say this wholeheartedly—as God raising up people around you who still see you as qualified, even when you have disqualified yourself.
There were moments when I felt completely unworthy, especially after my divorce; moments when I believed I had fallen too far, failed too much, or disappointed God beyond repair. But God surrounded me with people who refused to see me through the lens of my shame. They reminded me of who I truly am. It brings me back to the moment God asked Adam and Eve, “Who told you that you were naked?” In the same way, the people God placed around me gently confronted the lies I had believed about myself.
Through their scriptural affirmations, their consistent love, and their unwavering belief in God’s call over my life, they kept echoing the truth: “You are still loved. You are still a child of the Kingdom. You are still needed; God still wants to use you.” Those reminders became my strength. They helped me rise again when I felt like staying down.
Q: In our unique healing journeys, how important is Holy introspection? Why must we allow the Holy Spirit to search our hearts as we move toward wholeness?
A: What I deeply love about the work of the Holy Spirit is that it is never selfish.
The world often teaches us to focus on “self”—self-preservation, self-focus, and self-introspection. While reflection is important, there is a profound difference be tween worldly introspection and Holy introspection. When the Holy Spirit leads you into introspection, it isn’t to make you self-centered; it is to make you God-centered.
He walks you through your pain, affirms you, and reminds you of your identity. He heals the wounds that others have caused, but simultaneously, He gently widens your heart. You may have been deeply hurt by someone, yet as He restores you, He also begins to whisper, “ love you, and I also love them.”
He teaches you compassion and how to see beyond your own wound. He teaches you forgiveness—not because your pain didn’t matter, but because your heart matters more. That is the beauty of the Holy Spirit’s work: He heals us, but He also shapes us. He doesn’t just restore us for our own sake; He equips us to reflect God’s heart, even toward those who hurt us. It isn’t self-centered healing; it is God-centered transformation. And that, to me, is truly beautiful.
Q: For the reader who is currently in the middle of a painful season, what words of hope or counsel would you offer to help them take that first step toward healing?
A: If I could say something to the person reading this who is going through the most right now, it would be this; I know it doesn’t make sense.
Sometimes, healing doesn’t make sense while you’re in it. Even God doesn’t seem to make sense when you are hurting. After my separation, even before the divorce was finalised, I was angry. I was deeply hurt. I was mad at God for allowing me to endure so much pain—it felt unfair. I had lost my mom less than three years prior, and now this? It felt unnecessary. For a while, I honestly said, “God, I’m done with church. I’m done praying.”
But here is what I’ve come to see: even when I was angry, God remained faithful. He was incredibly patient with me. When the Bible speaks about the fruit of the Spirit—patience, endurance, and the likes—it isn’t describing something God asks of us that He does not embody Himself. Jesus demonstrated perfect endurance, and in my own life, God demonstrated that same patience toward me.
Looking back, I realised something powerful: even in my anger, I never truly stopped praying. I might have said I was done, but my heart never completely left Him. I used to say I was part of the “we didn’t leave God, we left the church” group, but the truth is, even in that space, God came looking for me.
So, if I can encourage you: don’t wait for God to come looking for you. Run to Him. It makes the process gentler. It saves you from running to places and things that cannot heal you. The world offers distractions, but only the Father offers restoration. Run back to Him. He’s already waiting for you. One day, you will look back and thank yourself for choosing Him in your hardest season.
Q: Which words of counsel echoed in your soul as you went through the journey of healing?
A: For me, the journey of healing was truly about letting go—loosening the grip on the things we hold so tightly. Sometimes, we cling to past hurts and pains without even realising that we are building walls within ourselves.
What I initially thought was simply a journey of processing my divorce and separation actually led me deeper. It took me back to my mother’s passing, and even further back to my parents’ divorce when I was young. I began to notice patterns—generational and emotional patterns—that had quietly shaped me over the years.
My healing journey was about studying those patterns, understanding them, and intentionally breaking them. I cannot overstate this: I could not have done this apart from the Holy Spirit. I cannot imagine navigating these layers of pain without God’s presence and the gift of salvation guiding me.
The words that echoed through my soul during that season were simple: ‘Loosen the grip. Let go and let God.’ Those words became my compass. They reminded me to release control, to trust, and to allow God to restore what was broken. Even now, they continue to guide me as I walk in healing.
Q: any last words to our readers?
A: Do not miss the “man of your miracle.”
When the Israelites prayed for deliverance from Egypt, God answered—but He sent Moses. Often, when we pray, we have a fixed image of how God should answer. But the truth is, God may choose to show up in completely unexpected ways, frequently through the people He places in our lives. If we aren’t careful, we might miss the very answer we’ve been seeking.
So today, in this very moment, pay attention. God may be showing up in ways you don’t anticipate—perhaps even through this conversation. Be ready to recognise Him however He comes.
I love you, and I thank you so much for opening your hearts. As we end this, here are a few truths to meditate on:
- Proverbs 3:5-6: “Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight.”
- Psalm 55:22: “Cast your burden on the Lord, and he will sustain you; he will never permit the righteous to be moved.”
- Philippians 3:13-14: “Forgetting what is behind and straining toward what is ahead, I press on toward the goal to win the prize for which God has called me heavenward in Christ Jesus.”
My name is Thabiso Mthimunye and I am Positioned!!!
“Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest… and you will find rest for your souls”- Matthew 11: 18-29.
No matter what state you find yourself in today, it is enough for Jesus to meet you, heal you, and reshape you. Come to Him exactly as you are, and let Him embrace you with His unconditional love. There is a place of perfect rest waiting for you in Him.
Let’s pray :
Father, in the name of Jesus, we thank You for everyone reading this today. We join our faith with theirs and declare healing over their souls, minds, and hearts. We pull down every thought that sets itself against Your Word in their lives; we lift them up in prayer, believing wholeheartedly that You have begun a good work of healing within them.
Father, we pray that Your Spirit would lift them daily above their pain and hurt. May they feel Your love in every moment, and as they walk this journey of restoration, may Jesus become their living reality.
We thank You, Lord, for placing people around them to listen and to pray with them. For those who have yet to begin this journey, we declare that their steps are ordered by the Lord. For those already on the path, we pray for complete healing and wholeness. Thank You, Lord, for lifting their heads and causing them to see Your goodness. We thank You and praise You, in Jesus’ name, Amen!
If you need someone to hold your hand and pray with you during this season of your life, please reach out to us. We are available to pray with you.